Dealing with the death of a loved one is one of life’s greatest challenges. But knowing how best to support those who are grieving can be challenging too, albeit in a different way. Showing someone you care can begin with a simple expression of sympathy. For example: “I heard that your husband died, and I’m very sorry for your loss.”

Though you may not know what more to say, often just listening can be helpful. Acknowledge the person’s feelings, and try to be supportive and offer reassurance without minimizing the loss. People often appreciate shared memories of the person who has died. They may also appreciate practical help. For instance, you might volunteer to pick up family members arriving at the airport or to babysit the children. Generally, a specific offer is better than a statement such as, “Call if you need me.”

Grieving takes time, so it’s helpful to check in periodically after the funeral too. If you think someone is struggling to cope, consider recommending a counselor or support group. Signs of trouble may include abuse of alcohol or drugs, neglect of personal hygiene, physical problems, or talk of suicide—something that requires emergency help.

Sources: American Cancer Society; American Hospice Foundation
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